Natural Childbirth the Second Time Around

For the last two and half weeks I’ve been wallowing in the haze of sleeplessness, too exhausted to personally share the news of our second child’s birth. As you may have already read from Rebecca’s announcement, Jovi Nilprabhassorn arrived on June 8th after nine hours of labor, loads of encouragement, and some uncontrolled screaming towards the end.

After my first child’s birth I thought I knew what to expect with the second. Wrong! From the beginning she established herself as unique with lots of small contractions for hours before labor really intensified.

Even after we arrived at the Midwifery Birth Center, I remember thinking, “This whole labor thing really isn’t that hard! Why did I think this was such a struggle last time?” Within a few hours, I remembered just how painful it could get and realized at one point that I might not make it to the other side of each contraction.

Jett spent the entire time pushing our electric massager (purchased at a thrift store) up against my tailbone and squeezing my hip bones together, both of which were incredibly helpful. My mom, a longtime Lamaze teacher, reminded me to breathe and kept uttering the perfect words of encouragement throughout.

At around 11:50 am I asked to have my water broken and things quickly moved along. At this point, I totally freaked out. Luckily, my midwife gently but firmly coached me through pushing and she arrived just fifteen minutes later after some hysterical screaming. Whew!

After all that, I can’t say I feel like a hero. Instead it puts me in awe of women who have labors that are three or four times as long as mine with lots of complications. How do they do it? How do some women manage labor when they already several children and can’t stop their lives to take the time to recover? It’s humbling!

We are now very tired, but quite happy to have our Jovi in our arms instead of just gazing at her ultrasound image. It wasn’t easy to bring her into the world, she doesn’t exactly sleep at night and she cries a lot, but in the end she’s totally worth it.


  1. congratulations!
    I’m glad there were supportive people there to help you through it!

  2. What an absolute sweetie she is! Birth is so amazing on so many levels. Amazing that we can finally see this beautiful little life in our arms. Amazing that our bodies can actually get that little life out. Amazingly difficult and painful. And amazing that we’d actually even contemplate doing it again!


  3. Whenever I hear about any childbirth process my overwhelming urge is to tell the mom “Amazing job!!” or “good work!!,” but that goes double for natural childbirth. I gotta say both to you. 🙂 Congratulations, she’s adorable!

  4. Congratulations! She’s beautiful!

  5. i’m in awe of you–i couldn’t stand a minute of real contractions. 🙂 she’s so beautiful–congrats!!

  6. Silly Joy,

    No matter how long or short the labor… how big or small the baby… c-section, epidural, o’ natural – giving birth is an amazing miracle EVERY time. We are all so much stronger than we give ourselves credit for.

    We are SO proud of you and your boys and SO in love with sweet Jovi! Words can’t express how happy we are to have you in our lives to share in all this craziness! 🙂

  7. Congratulations! Enjoy and love her lots!

  8. Lovely to see her! 🙂 And to hear about her birth story – you did a great job. Thanks for sharing 🙂
    These first few months are always tough – hang on in there, it will pass.

  9. Very insightful. Thanks for the information.

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