Pacifiers in Both Pockets: How Our Household Binky Addiction Began

My official stance on pacifier use was influenced by lactation specialists who advised that I hold off until baby reached three months of age to ensure we kept up a good breastfeeding latch. For approximately twelve weeks my son’s remarkably ear piercing wails were the norm, sometimes for several hours at a time.

When he hit three months and we popped that magical little (BPA-free) device into his mouth, we experienced a wee bit of heaven. It was quiet, he was content, and the addiction began. Every night (sometimes while cursing under our breath) we searched the house for pacifiers to ensure that he was surrounded by at least a half dozen while he slept. Otherwise we’d wake to his siren scream at 3 a.m. and find ourselves groping under his crib in the dark to find those tiny providers of peace and quiet.

At some point, which we honestly can’t now remember due to sleep deprivation, he just gave them up. We happily celebrated the end of our nightly binky searches and life went on.

Consequently, we didn’t worry much about giving our daughter a pacifier when she hit three months. Little did we know that her attachment would be personal and all consuming. She kisses her binkies, carries them around in tiny purses, and wails for them when they are out of reach. The other day she announced, “I’m a big girl. I don’t need my binkies anymore!” I happily packed them away and then began a two hour attempt to get her to sleep during her nap. I could have held the line and pushed ahead, but instead I popped a binky in her mouth and she zonked out in seconds.

So should you ever start using pacifiers?  What has your experience been?  We’ll share opinions from a variety of my mom-peers on Wednesday, but I’d love to hear more from our readers.


  1. We gave a bink to our daughter around 6 months to get her to sleep better. Now she is 28 months and the binky fairy paid her a visit last week. It has been bad at night time since she will cry for at least an hour or 90 minutes before going to sleep, where before it was nothing or 15 minutes at the most.

    We only gave them up because they were chapping her face. She still tells me several times away that they binky fairy took her binks and gave her a stuff bug instead. She will ask about them more in the car and at nap time – the times she used them the most – but has been overall ok with it.

  2. My son in 4 months old and has a pinky-finger sucking addition instead. Let me clarify he likes to suck on our pinkies not his own. It started when he had to undergo lots of tests and discomfort at the hospital. We gave him a pinky to suck for comfort and that is stiil our go to move when he isn’t hungry but is upset or fighting a nap.

    I was one of those anti-pacifier people until I became a parent. Out of desperation to stop his crying and get him to sleep we tried many times from our first week at the hospital through his first 2 months home. But he would never keep the pacifier in for more than a few sucks.

    I don’t know how we’ll stop the finger sucking. Like so many things it will be re-training us not him.

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